Is there any reason to believe I am ever going to find someone(significant other) since I am in my late 20s and never had a girlfriend?

I feel like it's a waste of time. I don't need to be reminded how much of a loser I am. I actually got sick of even seeing people together because I am always reminded what I will never have. What's a good reason to fight? Cuz I definitely see no hope!

Mr Right

If that's the way you think, "I will never have this," you're basically signing up for it. You need to be honest with yourself -- ask yourself "have I really tried to get a girlfriend." You might say "yes," but the truth is, if you've never been in a relationship before, you are definitely doing something wrong. Maybe you don't speak very much around women, maybe you're arrogant and women are put off by you... it could be the way you dress, or your facial expressions. I remember when I was younger, people used to tell me that I looked serious all the time. People are turned away by this and they think you want to be left alone. That is why it seems like people don't bother talking to you, or asking you for help because they just think "Oh he's too serious looking." What I'm trying to say here is -- there IS a reason, you are either unaware of the reason, or you actually ARE aware of it but are too lazy to fix it. If there is any good advice I can give you right now, it would be to stop sying "this will never happen." Or "I am not good enough for anyone." Because in the end, people actually pick up on that negativity -- and that is why you continue to walk about alone.


I would say give up on it. Most women don't bring anything to the table and expect you to do everything. And they will leave you as soon as they think they can find someone better.


I didn't date until my late 20s and used to obsess about it, now it feels fine and I kind of understand why I didnt... also I have friends in their late 30s who haven't dated , they want to, they're just shy or whatever, but I think things will work out for them too, everyone lives life at their own pace


You could make some money, if nothing else you could buy women, that's what Trump did or does. I mean, I'm a loser, but I basically gave up because I own most of my house, I get a disability pension, and my dad pays me rent, and my grandma is about to die and leave us money to build in the back yard. Women see that as not that well off. I mean some of them are doctors and lawyers and stuff or come from rich families. I never had a full time job in my life. I was mostly a musician. Ironically, that's what got me the hottest girl I was with, touring the mainland with my metal band, then that started a long distance relationship for three years. I also barely even got lucky until my mid twenties. You have to sell it, be confident, dress it up, even lie if you have to, or you know pay for it. It's one of those things, they have their instinct, and you have yours. You can see why they have their instinct, to protect themselves and their womb from all but the best genes and the best provider and protector. I mean, you know, it's possible to change all that.