How can a man be a dead beat dad if he pays his child support?

Lita

A deadbeat dad is one who doesn't do anything for the child, be it financial or being involved in the child's life. Paying for the child is good but not being in the child's life can make you seem like a deadbeat even though I understand why you aren't in the child's life.

LizB

Obviously you're not an involved father, you've opted to have no more responsibility than writing a check once a month. That possibility was a risk she took when you made it clear you didn't want children, but she chose to have the baby and raise it, so if she's mad about it now I can't say I have much sympathy for her. She knew how you felt all along, she chose to continue the pregnancy anyway, and now she's getting a heck of a lot more in child support than most single mothers do. Seems to me like she needs to accept that you're not going to change and move on with her life.

Liz

Just because this woman says you're a dead beat father doesn't make it so. If she said you're a giraffe, would you be one? Stop caring what your ex says or thinks about you. And start being involved in your child's life.

Human242

You didn't want to be a dad, but you are and nothing is going to change that. Yes you think if you ignore it and let her deal, as you probably see it as the "situation", then you don't have to be a dad. You should go see your child and spend some time with your child. You don't have to go into full dad mode. But at least get some sort of relationship going on. Or you might regret it in the future.

They Pelted Us With Rocks And Garbage

And not one mention of you spending any time with the child.

Jeffrey

You need to be more discerning regarding the people you have sex with. You seemed to have chosen to be with someone of little to no character.

Anonymous

There are two ways to be a dead beat dad. One way is not to support the child. You are not that kind of dead beat. The other way is not to be part of the child's life. In that area - you are a dead beat. You are doing NOTHING to be a positive male role model to your child. You are doing nothing to be a father to the child. In that way, you are a dead beat. Doesn't matter if you didn't want the child or not. If you don't want to be a father, then keep your dick in your pants. It is the only way to be sure you never have an accident you didn't want.

Tri-Harder

Because you aren't bothering to be a parent. Or bothering to grow up. I hope she pressed charges against your Dad for bribery attempts.

Oh Boy!

If you didn't want children, you shouldn't have had sex. Birth control is NEVER 100% effective. I feel sorry for your child.