I have Asperger's Syndrome and my wife is mad at me because I struggle with empathy. What can I do about this?


Dances with Weed

Divorce her and get a dog

I identify as

get a new wife, if she is a an asshole with something you can't help then get rid of the problem, which is her


Well.... your question tells me that you can show sympathy. So that's good. Empathy you can't fake. It's 'sympathy' on a relate-able level'. Meaning... you don't just feel sorry for someone you can actually RELATE to what they are going through because you have gone through it to. [Whatever it is] Have you ever gone bare-foot and hit your baby toe on a table leg? Remember how that hurt? If you see someone else do that - you can empathize with what they are going through and how they are feeling.

Coach Simon

Switch your focus from the problem (Asperger's Syndrome) to the solution. If everyone read books like Dr Phil McGraw's excellent, Relationship Rescue they would get deeper insights into how relationships work and learn to be much happier! (I wish I got commission, as I recommend it to so many people!). As he writes in the book, it isn't only or people whose relationships are in trouble. There are other books, of course.


Is your problem with empathy or idiocy? My son is an Aspy. He can be very empathetic when the persons problems are actually real, but he has ZERO empathy for those who seem to wallow in drama. Nor do I for that matter. Neither of us are very good at showing emotions even if we feel remorse. To others we come off as cold and unfeeling robots who lack any empathy.