I have this friend, me and her have been friends since May of last year. We’ve never met in person but I met her brother at a youth conference, we connected through him. The same youth conference is coming up in May again and a few months ago she said that she would go and meet me there. I was having difficulty getting the money together to go, but I eventually got it all saved up and bought my ticket. I texted her and told her I got my ticket and she texted me back saying “I’m not going.”
She now isn’t going because she doesn’t feel like putting the effort in (she said that.) I would be driving 12 hours and she would be driving 3 hours to meet at the conference. we’ve always wanted to meet each other in person and now it feels like she hates me. Should I let her go? yghghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhkvhgvtyvtyfgb8gyuggffvhgvkj
If you have never met in person, then being "friends" is just a delusion. One that both of you have in common, but a delusion nonetheless.
You cannot actually RELATE to someone unless you are with them in person. Your relationship with this person is all in our mind. DON'T take it seriously.
Of course you let her go. You have never HAD her in the first place. And unless one of you moves to the other person's city, where you can see each other IN PERSON several times a week, nothing real is going to happen.
A CUP OF TEA
In the early 20th century, Zen master Nan-in received a university professor who came to ask about Zen. But instead he only talked on and on about his own ideas. Nan-in served tea. He poured his visitor’s cup full, and then, while the man continued to speak, Nan-in kept on pouring the tea. The professor watched the overflow until he could no longer restrain himself. “You fool! It is overfull. No more will go in!” Nan-in replied, “Like this cup, you are also too full of your own opinions and speculations. How can I show you Zen unless you first empty your mind?”
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