My parents want me to be exactly like my sister and have been punishing me bc I'm not?
nnaybe you should talk to your parents about it and tell thenn how it feels when they do all that
Marie And Alan
Being loud and out there is not necessarily evidence of having grown as person. You can be yourself without self advertisement.
"I enjoy being loud and out there." Do you think you can tone it down a little?
This isn't a choice between extremes. You're mature enough to know better. Find a middle ground where you can pursue your own interests and develop your own personality without getting on everyone's nerves. Being yourself should be more than than just not being your sister.